The vow you take says, “I am not leaving.” And so you dont…ever…because that is the boundary. And now you know it and have predictability and security. Really think about whether you want the “freedom” of divorce. Is that really a benefit?
Listen and think hard about the vow you made.
I have heard great reviews about this retreat. Its focus, according to what I have heard, is really on communication and making you look at your own behaviors. You cannot go in there thinking everything you do is fine and it is your spouse who has to change. You have to go there open, malleable, pliable, able to be moved and open to change.
Go here to see the website and within the site find the Where and When section to see the retreat scheduled for February. There is also one in Tampa in May and again in August.
Saving your marriage is worth it. Nearly always. Your kids will thank you and you will thank yourself.
If we cannot do it in our families, how then, friends, can we do it in the world.
You cannot expect from your spouse what you should be getting from God. Our spouse is not our All in All. God is. So allow Him in to your marriage and lean on Him, first and foremost, for the love you need and then put Him at the heart of your marriage. He will keep you both focused on the other teaching you His ways – mercy, charity, forgiveness.
Go to this retreat with that attitude: and with prayer, thanksgiving for your spouse, and love. See what happens.
All of us married couples could use it. A shot in the arm.
