Beautiful to see art portray the pain of divorce. This dance is based on a true story for Derek and Julianne Hough whose parents divorced when they were young and each child went to live with a different parent. The dance is about the pain of the divorce in having their family torn apart. Sort of seems to show what the kids go through. It is fascinating and worth watching more than once. I think at the end there is reconciliation with their parents in some way.
Anyway…the dancing and choreography and emotion is intense. Let it never ever never never never ever be said that kids (even adult kids) are ok after divorce. That is just not true. Divorce always scars permanently.
To save your marriage requires an enormous amount of strength. You must admit your wrongs, admit your failings to your spouse, admit your inability to love and admit you are “succombing to the smooth, easy voice of evil.” This is the suffering part. This takes time, tears, confession and much prayer. Marriage is your vocation. Marriage is your path to heaven.
While this is happening ask for God’s mercy to show your your own errors, your own lack of love, your own weaknesses highlighted. Be humble and aware of what He is showing you because He will show you. You must be able to see the bright light He will shine on all the places and parts where you want to reject Him. You cannot reject Him. however, is you want mercy and healing because that mercy and healing comes with a renewed sense of heart; a change; a new life in Christ no longer outside Him at all. You will be renewed in strength and in how to love. You will find certainty in your actions because your humility to God will allow Him to work and be seen by you.
Do not wait. Stop being angry at your spouse and demoralizing him or her. Take some time and begin the process I outlined and see what happens. God bless you all this Holy Week 2017. Cultivate humility to know why He died for you.
“To oversimplify for just a moment, consider that if the Church substantially increased her pressure on those who publicly reject her teachings, with the result that such persons—and those who sympathize with them—would at the very least no longer feel welcome, the number of active Catholics in most regions would diminish dramatically. This would result in more vibrant and cohesive Catholic communities, centered on the parish, which would in turn produce a substantially larger number of vocations to the priesthood.”
Another effect of more vibrant and cohesive Catholic communities is a devotion to the sacrament of Marriage which includes finding divorce mostly unthinkable. The reason this would be true is because these communities would nurture and educate and grow in the love of the faith such that the men and women making up these communities would come into marriage differently, treat their marriage differently, and understand marriage differently than what we see in the Western world and what is existing more and more all over the world. Divorce is a plague and it is not of God. I agree with Dr. Mirus that careful consideration should be given to tightening our communities so that active Catholics emerge more strongly. This statement implies that active Catholics are somehow sitting back and I do not think this is true. In fact, I see more and more active Catholics and small Catholic communities stepping out. I think however, banding these communities together more tightly, changes the landscape and targets the focus making things clearer.
Dr. Mirus’s article is worth the read especially as it explains how many Christians around the world are converting to Islam in order to get divorced and that cities and countries are trying to change laws to make divorce easier. Take a read here.
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