Remake Yourself Through Your Struggles
People want to remake society without remaking themselves. They want a Christ without the cross. Our crosses are necessary. If we do not embrace them we are not willing to do what has to be done to be better. The choice is yours. You must shut out the noise of the world to find yourself and you absolutely must face the crosses that are yours to bear. God gave us Christ for help so use Him. Once you pick up the cross and carry it you will, in your struggle, die to your old habits and ways and rise to a new you living in His light.
Ever since the days of Adam, we have been hiding from God and saying God is hard to find. Is He really? He has got a key to your heart but He will not use it unless you let Him in. But He is always at the gate. Who has the other key? You do. The human heart has the key. We look for our key and more often than not, it is lost or mislaid. But it is always in our hand yet we do not wish to see it. Shut out the noise of the world. Be with yourself and know who you are. Many cannot be with themselves because of the uncomfortable repartee going on in their conscious. Distractions that you let in drown out the voice of conscious that is real and true. Discern the difference and do not be afraid to hear the hard stuff. It is the stuff that will change you, improve you, help you to become who you are supposed to be with dignity and integrity.
Thank you Archbishop Fulton Sheen one of the greatest speakers I have ever heard. If you have never listened to him, I dare you to try. He is as real as it gets.
I often hear from who are very critical of racdial feminism and the courts that they were robbed blind by their ex when they got divorced, thanks to the court system bias against and fathers. Their ex wife and mother of their children gets to keep the house, get alimony and a huge chunk of his money, and sometimes he has trouble getting visitation rights supposedly.Is there any truth to there being a systematic bias against , and that perfectly innocent husbands get robbed all the time? Or do the who complain the most neglect to mention that they were abusive to their wife and kids? While some good get taken advantage of by some , especially gold-diggers and foreign , I personally do not know of any cases where the did not have a good reason to divorce their husbands, or they were abusive. Also, some lose big time due to divorce as well. I’ve never been married or divorced(but my parents are divorced), so what gives, what do the statistics say?
Sorry we took so long to respond. The Holidays, kids, Cary having a baby – made things hectic. While I cannot give you statistics I can tell you based on my years of practice as a family law attorney as well as my experience mediating that I have seen unfair situations for both men and women. Judges are people and do bring their own biases to the bench. That means that sometimes good people – men or women – get hurt during the process of divorce. Does this happen a lot? No…but it happens enough. I have seen women whose husbands clean out all the bank accounts leaving them without any money to go through the divorce process. That means the woman/mother cannot hire an attorney and basically ends up with no say in anything. Even if she sees her children or even if the children live with her, the father never pays, continues to keep the case embroiled in litigation and makes life miserable for the mother. When the kids are with him he will give them what they need or enough until he sees them again. He gives the mom nothing. Egregious cases that happen more often than people understand. I see the opposite too but it usually comes out where the mom is accusing the father of heinous things and he ends up with little or no time to see his children despite the fact that he pays support, probably is paying alimony, lives in a small apartment while the ex lives in the nice house…you get the picture. His life is miserable dealing with an unreasonable ex who is manipulative, vengeful, and intentionally setting out to alienate the children.
The personality traits whether the person is male or female are the same when dealing with an unreasonable person. Often it really is a personality disorder and that is why so many of us working out there are focusing on high conflict situations and helping the one spouse learn to cope as well as have a better relationship with the children.
Hope this helps and again, sorry for the delay!