Nature of Cases
- Multiple parties or participants
- Difficult to resolve
- Ongoing relationships between parties with strong emotional undercurrents
- Complex issues
For the last 6 years I have worked exclusively as a Mediator or as an Attorney representing a divorcing party in an out of court process such as a mediated divorce, a collaborative divorce, or a negotiated settlement. I have chosen this route for several very good reasons. First, litigated divorce often hurts families, depletes family money and causes resentment and anger that continues to escalate even after the divorce. Second, extended negotiation yields the best results. Why? Because the emotional side of divorce must be addressed. It is this side that normally fuels litigation. A negotiated format allows professionals to work with you to address those emotions and help you move through them without spending money and escalating conflict in litigation. Divorce takes time and that time does not need to be filled with litigation. While that time may be difficult indeed, it is necessary time to sort through issues and figure things out. Finally, people make better deals when all the professionals involved have as their goal the best interest of the family. This promotes healthy outcomes and erases the idea of “winning” at all costs.
At the end of the day, divorce is usually one half business transaction and one half establishing a new relationship with the father or mother of your kids. You need help doing that. Most often litigation just makes things worse. Using the professionals out there to help you complete a fair and reasonable business transaction that works for your family sounds much better doesn’t it? And using professionals who have worked in this field for many many years to help and support you in establishing a workable relationship with the other parent makes sense right? This is what good mediators and lawyers who work outside the court system do. They use their experience with families and the law to help families.
If you are interested in any of the processes described, please read more at the specific links and contact me to set up an initial consult. In my mind, the initial consult is a key aspect of your case. The more you know and understand at the outset, before any process begins, the more likely you will be to achieve a good outcome. Choosing to save the marriage is a choice as well. I have consulted with individuals and with couples together depending on my role as attorney or mediator. Read more about my consults in the links and feel free to contact me to discuss your situation.
The Bill could not even get heard. I am sure we will see this again sooner than later. I think alimony needs reforming but hey, I think No-Fault needs reform…fault is important and should matter. Share
Less and less cases are making it all the way to trial. We attorneys know that alternative dispute resolution is one of our most important tools. USC Gould School of Law announced it is launching two new master’s degrees for attorneys and professionals in one of the fastest growing areas of law and business – [...]
In general, the bill would have given judges guidelines on how to decide alimony payments, limit the duration of alimony and effectively eliminate “lifetime” alimony. The bill also had a provision that urged judges to begin any timesharing issue with a premise that both parents are entitled to approximately equal time with their children. Many [...]
slap down. For the mediation process to be truly effective people have to take it seriously. Too often lawyers try and control the process and make it just another step in litigation. Doing that does a disservice to the process and for your client. Thank you judge for reminding these lawyers and Mr. O’Neal that [...]
Brenda Baietto, Founder of Tampa Mediations, tops Amazon’s bestseller list with his contribution to the newly-launched book, “Champions of Collaborative Divorce.” The book includes insights from 23 collaborative professionals in Tampa Bay, Florida with the collective mission of providing simple strategies for creating a healthy divorce. “Champions of Collaborative Divorce” gives actionable advice for all [...]
Beautiful to see art portray the pain of divorce. This dance is based on a true story for Derek and Julianne Hough whose parents divorced when they were young and each child went to live with a different parent. The dance is about the pain of the divorce in having their family torn apart. Sort [...]
The more we run from conflict the more it masters us. Here is a good story from Tammy Lenski, someone who has spent her life helping others deal with conflict. She has amazing programs available and so much free content to wet your appetite. Check her out. Once upon a time there was a rug [...]
Even with the onset of Collaborative Law, I am still a strong believer in the mediation process. When people dig in and work to understand the other person, the situation, the future, they make better decisions for themselves and they learn a lot along the way. That does not exclude getting professional advice, but it [...]
Each of us is responsible for creating our culture. We have been intimidated for too long into believing that God’s Truth is somehow bigoted and hateful. Wrong. His Truth is Love because He is Love and Mr. Mainwaring is right…now is the time to live His truth loud and proud while the iron is hot. [...]
The will not to give up on the marriage is so very important. Even if it is just you for a while, let your spouse know you are not willing to give up and are willing to do what it takes. Stay in the house. Get counseling. Listen…and be ready to look at yourself MORE [...]
Unless we take the time time to listen to our spouses and to act in sacrificial ways even when it is not comfortable or easy, we will not be able to continue to love. Love takes an act of the will (so says St. Thomas Aquinas) which often is not accompanied by warm and fuzzy [...]
Brenda Baietto featured in the new book: