Nature of Cases
- Multiple parties or participants
- Difficult to resolve
- Ongoing relationships between parties with strong emotional undercurrents
- Complex issues
Tampa Mediations: A Firm Focused On Out Of Court Divorce Options
For the last 6 years I have worked exclusively as a Mediator or as an Attorney representing a divorcing party in an out of court process such as a mediated divorce, a collaborative divorce, or a negotiated settlement. I have chosen this route for several very good reasons. First, litigated divorce often hurts families, depletes family money and causes resentment and anger that continues to escalate even after the divorce. Second, extended negotiation yields the best results. Why? Because the emotional side of divorce must be addressed. It is this side that normally fuels litigation. A negotiated format allows professionals to work with you to address those emotions and help you move through them without spending money and escalating conflict in litigation. Divorce takes time and that time does not need to be filled with litigation. While that time may be difficult indeed, it is necessary time to sort through issues and figure things out. Finally, people make better deals when all the professionals involved have as their goal the best interest of the family. This promotes healthy outcomes and erases the idea of “winning” at all costs.
At the end of the day, divorce is usually one half business transaction and one half establishing a new relationship with the father or mother of your kids. You need help doing that. Most often litigation just makes things worse. Using the professionals out there to help you complete a fair and reasonable business transaction that works for your family sounds much better doesn’t it? And using professionals who have worked in this field for many many years to help and support you in establishing a workable relationship with the other parent makes sense right? This is what good mediators and lawyers who work outside the court system do. They use their experience with families and the law to help families.
If you are interested in any of the processes described, please read more at the specific links and contact me to set up an initial consult. In my mind, the initial consult is a key aspect of your case. The more you know and understand at the outset, before any process begins, the more likely you will be to achieve a good outcome. Choosing to save the marriage is a choice as well. I have consulted with individuals and with couples together depending on my role as attorney or mediator. Read more about my consults in the links and feel free to contact me to discuss your situation.
In general, the bill would have given judges guidelines on how to decide alimony payments, limit the duration of alimony and effectively eliminate “lifetime” alimony. The bill also had a provision that urged judges to begin any timesharing issue with a premise that both parents are entitled to approximately equal time with their children. Many [...]
slap down. For the mediation process to be truly effective people have to take it seriously. Too often lawyers try and control the process and make it just another step in litigation. Doing that does a disservice to the process and for your client. Thank you judge for reminding these lawyers and Mr. O’Neal that [...]
In these cases, the two employees, both homosexual, were fired when news of their same sex marriage was made public. Same sex marriage is against the Catholic Church. I understand same sex marriage has been legalized in the United States but that does not and will not ever change the teachings of the Church. While [...]
“Mooresville and Iredell County schools are partnering with Piedmont Mediation Center, Inc., to offer a different way to solve conflicts like bullying, risky behavior, sexting and truancy.” This is not about mediation. It is about “having the children and teens understand who they hurt and how. Goals for the program include “providing a sense of [...]
On many occasions clients approach me with this situation: my spouse and I have been trying to work on our marriage. Things are going south. We have been discussing separating or even divorcing but my spouse’s ideas are crazy. It is clear we cannot work together so I am going to have to get an [...]
Those who are seeking out divorce mediation often fail to realize that the process requires trust in one another – something neither party has. Despite intrinsically knowing this, people still want to mediate. I suspect it is because so many spouses worry about litigation and simply and honestly do not want their family affected by [...]
A good study on expressing disappointment during negotiations. Read more here. During a negotiation if the opposing party feels more connected to you and you express disappointment during negotiations, the opposing party tends to make more generous offers out of guilt. But if the opposing party feels no obligation toward you, expressing disappointment causes them [...]
The following article highlights some insane but true facts about high conflict divorce. You CHOOSE a high conflict divorce. Choose instead an alternative route. That route will not be conflict free but it will in no way be what a high conflict person wants it to be. In my experience, the high conflict person is [...]
The will not to give up on the marriage is so very important. Even if it is just you for a while, let your spouse know you are not willing to give up and are willing to do what it takes. Stay in the house. Get counseling. Listen…and be ready to look at yourself MORE [...]
Unless we take the time time to listen to our spouses and to act in sacrificial ways even when it is not comfortable or easy, we will not be able to continue to love. Love takes an act of the will (so says St. Thomas Aquinas) which often is not accompanied by warm and fuzzy [...]
Yesterday was the Feast of the Queenship of Mary. Per St. Ignatius the only choice we make in our lives is whose army we are going to join – Satan’s army or the Queen Mother’s Army for her Son. I made my choice and consecrated everything I am to Jesus through Mary. It has been [...]